The Other Good Daughter


I was asked to speak to a church congregation about my father during yesterday's Father's Day fellowship lunch. Caught off-guard and with non-existent extemporaneous speech training, I hesitantly walked towards the microphone and prayed that the words would form quickly in my head as a coherent thought before I started talking. I can now honestly say that I spoke from the heart and moved the audience, even seeing my parents wipe a tear afterwards.
I quote myself non-verbatim below:
I grew up seeing my father as a public figure because he ran a school district in our province. I would oftentimes hear him delivering speeches with gusto and he was recognized for his good looks and athletic ability. At home, I have always known him to be a disciplinarian. I guess he thought it was necessary to keep peace among 11 children.
But what I really want to share to you is how difficult it is for me to see him in his old age now, battling all sorts of illnesses as nature is taking its course. This sadness I feel shared by my siblings is because he is now just a small fraction of the man he was. Nonetheless, we are grateful of these remaining years we have with him, sort of our long drawn out goodbye.
Appang, we love you and we want you to take pride in your accomplishments and know that your legacy and memory will live on forever through us, your children and grandchildren.